{"id":565,"date":"2021-11-10T08:50:44","date_gmt":"2021-11-10T12:50:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/diaryofanhonestmom.com\/?p=565"},"modified":"2023-02-21T13:52:49","modified_gmt":"2023-02-21T17:52:49","slug":"motherhood-is-hard-lets-make-it-easier","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/diaryofanhonestmom.com\/blog\/motherhood-is-hard-lets-make-it-easier\/","title":{"rendered":"Motherhood is Hard, You Are a Good Mom"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Motherhood is hard, lets make it easier<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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Becoming a mother is easily one the most transformative times in a woman\u2019s life, and yet so many topics surrounding motherhood seem taboo. They shouldn\u2019t be. Motherhood is hard, and the sooner we can all admit it the better off we will be and the less we’ll be asking, “am I a good mom?”. It IS possible to be a mom and not have to experience things like mom guilt, mom shame, perfectionism and resentment.<\/p>

I believe that there is incredible freedom that comes from being vulnerable and talking about hard things, by allowing ourselves to feel them, and from sharing our stories. These things help us to realize that we aren\u2019t the only ones who have absolutely no idea what we are doing. They help us learn to accept ourselves and one another on our motherhood journey.<\/p>

I\u2019m known as the honest mom because truthful storytelling about my motherhood experiences and about universal motherhood experiences is what I do. I believe that real, raw storytelling can connect us and change the narrative of what a good mom is!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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So, Am I A Good Mom?<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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If you are asking yourself \u201cAm I a good mom?\u201d, you are. Your self-reflection is a sign of that.<\/p>

I\u2019m on a mission to change the narrative we tell ourselves and others about what it means to be a good mom and connect with as many incredible mamas along the way. I want you to know that your wellness is just as important as everyone else’s in your family. I want you to act on that knowledge and learn how to prioritize you, without the mom guilt.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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The Myth of Perfect Moms, And Other Lies We Have Told Ourselves.<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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I began my motherhood journey with an idea in my head of what a perfect mom looked like- and it wasn\u2019t me. I believed that I would not be good enough because I didn\u2019t have a good example to live by. I thought that I needed to have motherhood all figured out and be good at everything. I believed that other moms had the secrets to being a mom that I didn\u2019t have and because of that I felt I was fifteen steps behind them. I was wrong.<\/p>

The truth is: I was a good mom from the beginning. I loved my baby and did everything in my power to be my best and show up everyday for her. I was wrong to think that just because I struggled through and learned everyday that meant I wasn\u2019t good. Anyone who is good at anything will tell you they are always learning. I\u2019m still a good mom, even though I preach imperfection.<\/p>

The sooner we realize we weren\u2019t meant to be perfect the sooner we can find peace in the mess that is called motherhood; and the sooner we can stop asking, “am I a good mom?”.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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You\u2019re Normal If You Struggle:\n

Mom Guilt, Mental Health, Loss of Identity and other Things We\u2019ve all Experienced<\/p><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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I talk to moms everyday who struggle with the responsibility of raising good humans, all while trying to find out who they are as a mom. I talk to moms who struggle desperately with postpartum anxiety, depression and mom guilt. I talk to moms everyday who are ashamed of the rage they experience on a daily basis.<\/p>

I talk to moms who are tired of carrying the invisible load and are worn out from the emotional labour they do everyday to look after their families. I talk to moms who are trying to figure out how to navigate their relationship with their partner after kids. I talk to moms who have forgotten who they are and how important their own needs are.<\/p>

I talk to moms who don\u2019t want to look in the mirror anymore because they don\u2019t recognize their bodies anymore. I talk to mom\u2019s everyday who are exhausted and feel guilty about not being fun or present enough with their kids. I talk to moms who are lonely and desperately seeking connection. Everyday, moms around the world who love their children dearly, are asking themselves: \u201cAm I enough?\u201d \u201cAm I a good mom?\u201d<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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